If you are saying yes to most of these questions, read on. You are not alone.

Women grow up on fairy tales and weave their love and life stories around Prince Charmings, passionate love and languorous kisses ending in happily-ever-afters. But nothing prepares them for the real world, the disillusionment and complications of modern-day relationships.

When Amrita Sharma finds more and more women friends sharing their relationship secrets with her—their fears and deepest insecurities, their petty squabbles and extra-marital affairs—she realizes that their problems are vast and varied. And, more often than not, the women are to be blamed: When in love, even strong-willed, independent women become emotional fools.

Candid, wise and brutally honest—from telling us how to read the early signs of a failing relationship to friendly tips on finding the right guy—What Did I Ever See in Him is the modern woman’s guide to having the perfect love life.